Sunday, 3 November 2013

Care for the reason behind the perverse patriarchy, please?

The Economic Times of 31 Oct 2013 carried an op-ed by Ms. Samanwaya Rautray (a correspondent with the paper) who has given her judgment over the judgment of Supreme Court of India on the case of Naina Sahni. The link to the write-up at the end.

I have no complaints against the judgment as it has been proved beyond doubt that the man Sushil Sharma murdered his wife Naina Sahni. For a crime proved to be committed, the criminal shall be punished is the rule of law across the globe. However, my problem is with the correspondent who is living in an open eyed dream of being more intelligent, more knowledgeable, more responsible than the judges of Supreme Court (though at the same time I do not intend to say that those judges carry these qualities better than rest of the denizens).

The law has a responsibility to ensure it delves sufficiently deeper into the motive of any crime committed. And the crime here – of a man murdering his wife – carried a motive which had it's genesis in a relationship of his wife with a man. But before I put forth my views on this motive, I want to look at certain points made by the 'intelligent' correspondent.

She says that the judgment is 'wrong' when it observed that an independent educated woman cannot be subjected to violence. Now lets consider this. I have two thoughts on this. A woman as educated and as political as Naina Sahni does not take any action against her husband if he had been subjecting her to domestic violence. Why? Why would such an educated woman not go to police and lodge a complain? Why would she not raise her voice? While answering these questions we need to remember that the year was 1995 and not 1975. In that year, women activism had gained the critical mass and was indeed a force to reckon with already. So why would a woman not raise her voice. Such a woman actually does not need parental support and can earn independently, live as a single woman and care the least for her violent husband and the society, a way which anyways is being propagated by feminists for the women of India. There could be two reasons for silence of such a woman. Either she was actually infidel and wanted to keep her relation a secret, which could have become public if she had raised her own voice or her husband was not violent towards her (despite his reputation of being brash and gun trotting) which did not actually give Naina any reason to complain. The woman feared that her extra marital relation wold tarnish the reputation of her parents and therefore continued to live with Sushil Sharma under all circumstances.

Thus the court and the judges were bang right when they stated that Naina was not 'poor, illiterate hapless woman' and had the choice of walking out which she deliberately did not choose under her own volition.

In the write-up, the correspondent makes a remark that 'women are taught to be servile, obedient and play second fiddle to the men in their lives'. I will want the correspondent to think deeply on this remark again but this time with the data that suicides committed by men in marital discord is almost twice that of those committed by women. It just shows who dominates whom and maybe the husband of the correspondent (if at all someone dared to marry her) can tell more.

Ms.Rautray then also states '...mindset drives our society to harass women who marry outside their caste, demand money from bride's family and kill women in the name of honour when they stray outside the moral mores laid down for them by the majority'. I do take note of the deliberate use of the word 'mores' instead of more common 'values' to complete the phrase around morality. Nevertheless my point here is the thought behind women liberation. Why is that linked to breaking moral 'mores', and not to education. I have witnessed more feminists like Ms Rautray harping around freedom for women in terms of breaking the established moral 'mores' especially of the type late night outs, continuing relationships outside marriage, freedom to wear revealing clothes but there are few and just about feeble noises around female foeticide, female education. Why? There is a reason. When voices are raised around female foeticide and education the only person to be blamed and punished are parents – father and mother – of the girl/women/feminists. Now, how can they do this? Their target is men and their parents. So it is matters between man and woman and not between woman and her parents that get support from severely lop sided and mis-targetted feminism in India, at least.


To read the write-up click HERE

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